Non-Monogamy Relationship Coaching

In my 6 years of hosting Life on the Swingset: The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast, I've had the wonderful opportunity to meet and get to know people practicing every type of ethical non-monogamy on the spectrum. Through that, and my time as both a swinger and polyamorist, I've learned how to help maintain balance in this incredibly complex style of living.

I recognize that sometimes you're looking for a fix for a problem, and other times you're simply looking to talk and be heard. Let me be the springboard you bounce ideas off of, and let me help you find your fix. By discussing your goals and needs, I can help you come to a better understanding of how to best serve your relationships, both current and future, and the individual parts that make them up.

I believe that any relationship that is safe, sane, and consensual has merit, and will never judge your style of ethical non-monogamy.

I can help you

• Work through how to communicate interest in non-monogamy to your partner(s)
• Decide what type of non-monogamy best suits your relationships
• Learn to communicate rules and boundaries
• Cope with rule breaking/boundary pushing
• Explore your boundaries and limits
• Cope with relationship drift/non-monogamous changes
• Listen, when no one else will, as someone who has been all over the non-mono spectrum

What to Expect

Each coaching session includes:

• One 50 minute call
• Support between sessions via email or text message
• A personalized action plan, with “next steps” for the next session
• Recommended reading

I want to be sure we would fit well together in a coaching relationship. Please email me to tell me what you'd like to talk about. This way we can determine your needs and see if we have good chemistry. Feel free to contact me at or by using the form here.


For Individuals:
Single Session: $75
3-Session Package: $200 ($66/session)
6-Session Package: $360 ($60/session)

For Couples:
Joint Session: $90

For Triads and More
Please email me at to discuss your individual needs.

Sessions can be over telephone, Skype, or Google Hangouts (limited in person Chicago sessions are available).

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Relationship Coaching


Talking with Cooper about my relationship issues (of which there are many, because I'm poly) has been incredibly helpful. He's intelligent and experienced enough to spot patterns as I describe them, and he's honest enough to call me on what I'm bringing to the table, though never in a mean way. Cooper is as insightful and funny in a one-on-one session as he is on the podcast, so working with him is a delight.
Jumping into the world of ethical non-monogamy was as thrilling as it was intimidating. I was so glad to have Cooper as a guide when I had trouble navigating an issue or just wanted his unique perspective. His advice is great, and he's seen just about every side of non-monogamy which gives him a great perspective.
If you're thinking of hiring Cooper, do it- you won't regret investing in yourself, it's worth every penny. Cooper was absolutely great & I got so much value out of our time together. I've read books, listened to a ton of podcasts & even am in a group full of awesome people to talk to- but I really felt I needed a bit more personalized advice & guidance to navigate into new sexual territory & non-monogamy. Cooper is disarming, welcoming & wise, I highly recommend him as a coach!
Cooper helped me and my husband get over our "analysis paralysis." We wanted to try non-monogamy but just couldn’t let go of our "what if"s. Cooper’s pragmatic approach to ethical non-monogamy put our worries at ease. He offered constructive advice and insightful observations of our relationship. Cooper is knowledgeable and experienced in ethical non-monogamy and it was reassuring to talk to someone who has made non-monogamy work. We left the session feeling informed and encouraged.
Countless times I've reached out to Cooper needing an objective outsider to help me work through and process dynamics within my poly relationships. As a public figure and publicly poly person, I've reached out to Cooper specifically because he understands how those facts can complicate already complex situations. As an educator, I cannot pour from an empty cup. Cooper always hold space for my situation and offers actionable suggestions that have helped me so very much as I strive to be the best partner I can be.
Cooper is a great listener, and I know that his feedback to me will be honest and without judgement. He approaches problems from a rational point of view while also not discounting the very real emotional impact that those problems usually have. It's often hard to find people outside of your own non-monogamous circles to confide in, so I love that Cooper is there to offer impartial advice and ideas.
Cooper's advice on polyamory and communicating with partners has been invaluable to me. Everyone can use some expert, unbiased feedback and his is personalized, on-point and devoid of platitudes.
Cooper has helped me immensely with my relationship issues, current and former. He is incredibly accepting, non-judgmental and thoughtful in his approach and responses. I know I can tell him anything and he will not be shocked or offended. He offers insights from his years in the Lifestyle and other types of relationships. Talking with him has eased my mental burden and filled me with a sense of empowerment to make choices based on what I want instead of what is expected of me. Cooper has helped me live a more honest life Being truthful to myself has made me happier and brought me closer to fulfillment.