Beginning on a first date with a couple of swingers, followed by working through social anxiety and shyness, recognizing the importance of touch in life, evolving feelings about love and expectations, having threesomes, orgies, and prostate orgasms, going through a divorce, and leveling up in life and sexuality.
Cooper S. Beckett has written thousands upon thousands of words for Life on the Swingset, a website born out of the feeling that he’d learned enough in his whole year of swinging to tell other people how to live their non-monogamous lives. His hubris can be seen from space. From that writing he has collected personal essays, stories, erotica, and prescriptive “how-tos” into this memoir of his life on The Swingset.
He may be biased when it comes to swinging, polyamory, and other forms of ethical non-monogamy (in fact, he most certainly is) but he doesn’t sugar-coat it. He speaks honestly and earnestly about a unique way to live life, one that allows for sexual and loving growth and experimentation, a strong sense of community, and the ability to do what we all crave, whether we know it or not: Be honest with ourselves and others about what we want sexually. And out of life.
Praise for My Life on the Swingset:
Funny, educational, and self-aware, Cooper's book is a great and welcome addition to sex memoir genre."
Author of Girl Sex 101 and Bad Dyke
Cooper Beckett is the advice columnist for the rest of us: those in swinging, progressive swinging or non-monogamous relationships. Combining compassion with pragmatism, Beckett shares his insights, his advice and his erotic experiences of progressive swinging in this compelling collection. A must-read!”
Host, Polyamory Weekly
When I first met Cooper I asked him to come back to my hotel 'cause he's not afraid to let it all hang out. His essays are factual yet full of humor, drama, and, my favorite, sexy parts. He shares his truth about swinging and other ways to spice up monogamy when sex slowly fades from the menu."
Author of Sex For One
Cooper Beckett writes about non-monogamy, sex, love, and friendship with such honesty, wit, and charm, it's hard not to like this guy. He challenges the hard line between swinging and polyamory, tackles taboos with grace, and will make you rethink what you believe about relationships.”
Author of Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
Get ready to ride shotgun on a honest, funny, heartfelt, and sometimes painful journey into non-monogamy. Cooper Beckett’s collection of essays in My Life on the Swingset brings all the info you’ve read in relationship and lifestyle books to life. Blending the lines between polyamory and swinging, he challenges everything we think we know about these sexual sub-communities. Cooper shows us by example how to break the mold, go against norms, and carve out a personalized lifestyle map that embraces authenticity, honesty, and happiness. This is essential reading for anyone curious about or in a nontraditional relationship."
Host of Showtime's SEX with Sunny Megatron
Snarky, witty, vulnerable. More like Life on the Bicycle Handlebars of Cooper Beckett’s Wild Ride! We’re right up front with dangling feet, holding on tight, laughing and worrying all at the same time. Forget being a swinger—MyLOTSS is a page turner for any reader who loves a titillating tell-all. His genuine reflection and open-mindedness minus agenda was SUCH a relief and kept me reading. PS: His prostate multiple orgasm is worth the price of the whole book."
Author of The Femme’s Guide to the Universe
It's clear from reading the essays in My Life on the Swingset that swinging has changed Cooper Beckett's life for the better. But this is not a book about swinger evangelization. Instead, it's a smart, funny, intimate look at how a shy geek who'd planned to save sex for marriage became an out bisexual male swinger. His journey does much more than let readers live vicariously through his adventures; it allows them the space and gives them a framework to ask themselves some of the same questions about love, lust, identity and sexual values that Beckett asks of himself every step of the way."
Rachel Kramer Bussel
Author of Sex & Cupcakes: A Juicy Collection of Essays
This is great advice for life wrapped up in poignant stories, all with the friendly approachable tone we love from his blog. This isn't your average swinger story. It's progressive and heartfelt and it's what people exploring the lifestyle should be reading.”
Author of Polly: Sex Culture Revolutionary
Kudos to Cooper Beckett for his delightful collection of essays regarding his exploration of non-traditional ways of being in relationship. He speaks from personal experience and shares all of it, the good and bad, the silly and transcendent, the harsh bumps and effortless glides, the highs and lows, the insights and cluelessness, the benefits and drawbacks, of choosing to love consciously in a culture that makes it hard to do so. "Essential reading for anyone interested in all that is implied by the 'non' in 'non-monogamy.'"
Author of Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex
As I read My Life on the Swingset, I saw my own poly/non-monogamous relationship reflected and grew excited to share the book with my partner. I also thought 'Damn, I'd really like to meet this Cooper Beckett fella.' (And it's not often that I'm seduced by an author.) Expressive, honest, and often hilariously geeky, this collection of personal anecdotes on ethical non-monogamy is as enjoyable for the most jaded poly 'sexpert' as it is educational to the new swinger. My Life on the Swingset is the dirty cousin to The Ethical Slut. I can get with this."
Genderqueer Porn Performer and Author of How to Come Out Like a Porn Star
Cooper Beckett goes old school gonzo in My Life On the Swingset as your tour guide of non-monogamy in this delightful and playful romp of a read. Fear & Loathing meets On The Road as Cooper gives you first hand debaucherous details about his trials and tribulations and ecstatic moments of exploration in the swinger lifestyle. Defining NRE, prostate orgasm, sexy safe sex, and basic etiquette while telling a charming story is not easy but this recovering Catholic boy gives it his gusto and the book is helpful as well as entertaining. "
Executive VP Good Vibrations, Co-creator of Bend Over Boyfriend