The Swingset Takes Desire 2020

November 7-14, 2020


Already 65% Booked!

Why Join Us?

We'll be the first to admit that our trip isn't for everybody. We approach our takeover much differently than many others.

The Swingset Takes Desire has always aimed to be a place for all, but especially for those who feel out of place among the masses. We look to provide space for the communities that swinging doesn't always serve, be it the LGBTQ community, BDSMers, and folks who don't necessarily consider themselves swingers. While our group is chocked full of swingers, you'll also find the polyamorous, nudists, triads and quads, those looking to explore their sexuality and themselves.

We are definitely a trip for people who are DTF (down to fuck) but also pride ourselves in being a trip for people who are down to talk, down to meet, down to flirt, down to play (and not just sexy play), and down to connect.

The connections we make in life can define who we are as people, and every year we make connections, and see connections made, as deep as any friendship, and our final day are like the last day at camp, when all you can do is plan trips to visit, or promise you'll see them again next year.

On our trip, you do you! We have events, parties, our own themes, live podcasts, sexy workshops and demonstrations, the first dungeon night in the disco, and more. Our events are designed to help you meet and connect with as many people as possible, and run all week!

This sound like your jam?

Join us for the ninth annual Swingset Takes Desire resort takeover this November 7-14th.

The Swingset Takes Desire changed our lives. Maybe it can change yours.

Hope to see you there!


Here are some of the events and workshops from our 2019 trip!

Speed Dating • Themed Orgies
Pegging & Anal Demo • Gang Bangs
Foam Party • Squirting Class
Gangbang Workshop • Energy Play
Desire for Shy Folk & Newbies
Wine & Beer Social • Karaoke
Flogging Demo • 
Live Podcasts


While Desire Resorts – Riviera Maya has their own regular theme nights, we change them to fit our crowd better.  Here are 2019's theme nights!

How will I know what's happening every day?
What's the best practices for oral hygiene?
What's this disco dungeon everybody's talking about?
How will I know what's happening every day?

Every morning you will get an update from Dylan with the day's events. If you're someone who disconnects on resort, you can find a schedule posted in the front window of the lobby.

What's the best practices for oral hygiene?

Dylan here! Whether you're a makeout slut like me or not, please keep the following basic things in mind.

1 – If your mouth is on genitals and you intend to kiss someone else, please either rinse that mouth out thoroughly with a mouthwash containing serious amounts of alcohol (listerine for example) or actual shots of hard liquor (vodka for example), or have subsequent people explicitly opt in.

2 – Take care of your mouths in general! It's super easy to lose track of time and to end up dizzy from activity and want to drop in bed. Take the time to take care of your mouth, it will allow you to more happily allow your mouth to take care of others!

3 – If you end up with a cut, sore, or anything else with your mouth please get explicit opt-ins or temporarily opt out of makeouts. These things happen, it's a ok, andyou'll likely get opt-ins to LOTS of other things.

What's this disco dungeon everybody's talking about?

Find out more in the specific Disco Dungeon FAQ below, or visit the Disco Dungeon page to learn more.


These rates includes seven nights for two people, 1 room, food and drink included. Deposit is only one night’s stay

Deluxe Garden View: 4,550 USD
Superior Garden View: 4,760 USD
Deluxe Ocean View: 4,990 USD
Garden View Jacuzzi Suite: 5,390 USD
Ocean View Jacuzzi Suite: 6,090 USD
Passion Suites: 7,950 USD

Availability for stays of less than seven nights is limited, so please fill out the form to the right if you need an adjusted schedule.


Cooper S. Beckett

Co-Founder Life on the Swingset

Ginger Bentham

Co-Founder of Life on the Swingset

Dylan Thomas

Co-Founder of Life on the Swingset


JV Altharas

Ending the Sexual Dark Age

Shara Bono

Ending the Sexual Dark Age


By the Bi Podcast


By the Bi Podcast

Tonia Thomas

Ryan "The Professor" Bentham

Ian the Gentleman

Missives from Paradise

Every year, we record a live podcast from the resort. Below you'll find episodes recorded on the trip and those looking back and reflecting on the trip.

Book Now!

Desire 2020
Our trip runs 11/7-11/14, if you need fewer nights, or a different week, please enter that.
Pricing is based on a FULL WEEK FOR 2 GUESTS, shorter stays will be adjusted.



Hey Sexy Campers!

Cooper here. On behalf of Dylan and the many wonderful Swingsetters putting this trip together for you, I want to welcome you to paradise for Life on the Swingset’s ninth trip to Desire Resort Riviera Maya! Over the years, as we’ve grown, we’ve been able to twist the resort more and more into being the space we truly want it to be. That has meant more acceptance of bi men, alternative relationships, trans guests, and now gay couples. We are so pleased with what this trip has become as we enter this year. The number one thing that we’re proud of, though, is the respect that our people have for each other, for the staff, for the locals, for everybody. Respect is such an important attribute, and it is so frightfully rare in the world.

It would not be what it is without you, the newbies; you, the returning guests; you, the Desire vets, taking a chance with our merry band of hedonists!

Desire, for us, is about exploration and community. It’s about learning about ourselves, our likes, our dislikes, and things we had no idea we’d like. It’s about learning about our partners, our friends. Like camp, it’s that wonderful place where you can meet new people, bond intensely, and then have them as lifelong friends thereafter. I’ve never met a greater group of human beings than I encounter each year on this trip.

And they’re fucking sexy, too!

I encourage you to drink deeply in your time here, try new things, explore the edges of your comfort zone, knowing that if you don’t like something, it’s as simple as never doing it again (or just once more in case you did it wrong the first time) but if you DO like something, well, you may have discovered your new THING.

There will be moments of intense discovery, the wondrous ecstasy, and there will also be emotions and difficulty. It’s understandable that in a place with such emotional cache, we will all inevitably hit the feels. But when it happens, look around, you’re surrounded by people like you! People who will help if they can.

On this page, you’ll find a bit of a roadmap for your experience here. But remember, your Desire is like a choose your own adventure experience. Yours won’t look like anybody else’s, and that’s wonderful!  Chart your own path, define this adventure for yourself!

Carpe Noctem – Seize the Night!
Cooper S. Beckett

Frequently Asked Questions

Disco Dungeon Frequently Asked Questions

Do I have to play if I come to Dungeon Night?
Do I have to bring a partner to play?
Do I have to have sex/can I have sex in a scene?
What’s a “service top?”
Can I have a specific service top if I have a preference?
I want to play with my partner but we don’t have any toys or experience. Can we still play in the dungeon together?
What kind of play do the service tops offer?
What if my partner and I have our own toys and just want to play?
Will there be dancing anywhere on Dungeon Night since the disco is closed?
Where can I get some introductory info on BDSM safety?
Do I have to play if I come to Dungeon Night?

No! There is ample room for spectators and the bar is open. The play area will be roped off with only one entrance, and there will be no play across the rope line. Part of the intention is to provide safe and comfortable access to all, including those who are only interested in watching.

Do I have to bring a partner to play?

No! If you’re curious about bottoming (receiving), there will be a number of extremely capable and experienced service tops who will be happy to take you for as mild or wild of a ride as your interests may dictate. Explicit, informed and enthusiastic consent is always the theme.

Do I have to have sex/can I have sex in a scene?

Sex is never required, and if you'd like your scene to include sex, that can be negotiated with your partner or some service tops. Please don't take up the kinky equipment with non-kinky sex.

What’s a “service top?”

A service top is an experienced top/dominant who enjoys kink enough that they’re happy to play without any kind of reciprocation or sexual gratification. They’re happy to top as a service as opposed to topping as part of a personal relationship. Our service tops have a wide variety of skills and interests, and are all people JV and Shara have played with personally. They’ll take the time to find out what you want and get you where you’d like to go.

Can I have a specific service top if I have a preference?

Absolutely, just let one of the DMs know who you’d like to work with.

I want to play with my partner but we don’t have any toys or experience. Can we still play in the dungeon together?

Absolutely. All the service tops have some toys that are loaners, and are also happy to be mentors while you play with your partner. If you’re new to kink, we strongly recommend you come to the workshops on Monday afternoon. Most/all of the service tops will be there, along with the dungeon gear.

What kind of play do the service tops offer?

The service tops will offer at least the following list of services:

Impact play (flogging, spanking, paddles, crops, and whatever else may be handy and up your alley
Sensory play (hot, cold, rough, smooth, soft, hard, blindfolds, etc)
Electricity play (violet wands)
Wax play
Bondage (rope, cuffs, etc.)
Feel free to inquire about anything special, ideally beforehand

What if my partner and I have our own toys and just want to play?

If the station you’re looking to use is open, just talk to a DM and you can walk right in and play. Popular stations may have wait lists, as mentioned above.

Where can I get some introductory info on BDSM safety?

For an extremely helpful beginner’s resource on BDSM health and safety, as well as a general Safer Sex Guide, please visit Or, for direct download of the guide formatted for mobile devices,

A great resource for rope bondage safety can also be found at

Countdown to Paradise


Chat With Other Guests

We have an ongoing private chat on our inhouse (and thus secure) Rocket Chat platform. While many people use some of the rooms, only Desire '20 attendees can join our D20 chatroom! If you haven't already signed up, do so with the form below.

Rocketchat Signup
This will not be visible to any chat users, and is for our bookkeeping.
The email you'd like associated with your account (not visible to users, for password recovery and login)
Status *
What you would like us to display in your profile.
We recommend a first name, then a "scene name" like Cooper-Geeksexual

Resort Map

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Trip Logo Merch

Each year has its own trip logo, and we have merchandise to go with it, including tote bags, shirts, hats, etc. With this year being D20, well there was only one way we could take it! Roll for mischief, roll for pleasure!

Resort Music

Desire Collaborative Playlists

The Music Czar Dylan Thomas helps to curate music across the entire resort for our week. Below you can find 2020's playlists.

D20 – An Atmospheric Experience
D20 – Crooning Regrets
D20 – Epic
D20 – Hot Tub Tunes
D20 – Badass Babes
D20 – Mood
D20 – Hard Hitting
D20 – Light & Playful
D20 – Flow (Morning, Chill)
D20 – High Energy Party
D20 – Fun in the Sun (Playful)
D20 – A Little Hard, A Little Edge

Dress Code

The traditional Desire Resort dress code is as follows:

Must have a cover-up at least in the lobby.

Must have shoes and a coverup (both top and bottom) at the breakfast and lunch buffets.

Must have long pants/dress, shoes, and covered top at the dinner buffet.

Must have closed shoes, long pants/dress, nice shirt/top, at Suki & Sahlo.

We have worked with the resort to “evolve their thinking” over the past several years to make the dress code more inclusive and less gender based.

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